I find "political
correctness" troublesome for several reasons. I think part of
why the idea gets so thoroughly rejected by some people is
rooted in privilege. But maybe not all. Another problem with
political correctness is that I think it sometimes gets thoughtlessly
applied--someone says "don't say [insert word here] because it
offends [insert minority here]" and leaves it at that. Sometimes
they understand why what they're saying is a reasonable request and
assume any remotely respectful person would think the same, but it's
also possible that they're parroting what they've been told not to
say in order to appease others without really pausing to think about
why it hurts some
people to hear such language and how they can improve their own use
of language without degrading it.
Another thing that
might not be thoroughly considered enough is that some words are more
hurtful than others. I think here that lack of emphasis may be
justified--just because one word hurts more than another doesn't mean
that they aren't both painful to hear and disrespectful to use. But
when you equate saying a more commonly accepted word like "stupid"
with politically loaded racial slurs, you lose credibility to people
who are privileged enough to be skeptical of how much their every day
use of language can really convey a sense of disrespect to the ears
of less (or differently) privileged people.
Which brings me to
another reason why the term "politically correct" makes me
pause. It's not just a matter of politics--it's a matter of respect.
Just because you don't face the lack of understanding and the
societal bullshit other people face for being part of a minority
doesn't mean the words aren't hurtful. Using slurs and turning words
that apply to minorities into slurs isn't just politically
repulsive--it's flat-out disrespectful, especially when you've been
told that those words are harmful. And all that aside, if you're not
a politican or a business trying to appeal to as many people as
possible so they'll give you their votes and/or money, it seems odd
that you should even care about being "politically correct".
The term itself de-emphasizes the behavior's importance.
And it
is important. I don't
mean that we should completely strike certain words from our
lexicon--they have historical importance, if nothing else--but the
language we use does
make a difference. It's a subtle difference influenced by thousands
of tiny implications coming from the connotations and the
associations carried by the specific words we choose to use. Even
things you think are innocuous (whether you use "gay" to
mean "stupid" when you really mean "ignorant" or
"inconsiderate" or "disagreeable" or say "men
and women" when you mean "people") send out little
flags about what kind of person you are. Most people think of
themselves as respectful (or at least, respectful when they think
someone deserves their respect). They won't usually tell you if
they're misreading you or they think you're in some way inferior to
them because of some trivial quality you have no control over.
Sometimes they don't consciously realize it themselves. So we have to
recognize the signs in the everyday language they use without
thinking too hard.
That doesn't mean I
think everyone I hear saying "men and women" when they mean
"people" is a horrible person. I don't hear that and
automatically jump to "this person is a binarist asshat who has
no respect for me whatsoever." What I do hear is "this is
probably a person who is misreading me, or at least misreads other
people like me until they are corrected". I get the impression
that you don't and maybe won't ever understand who I really am, or
that I am not an anomaly. I fear that if I tried to help you
understand, you would disrespect me by dismissing those efforts. If
you aren't family or a close friend or someone I admire very much
otherwise, I may decide that the effort and the risks aren't worth it
and I don't want to get any closer to you than necessary.
I'm
not silently judging you unless you say something genuinely nasty (in
which case, I might also not be silently
judging you). I'm not even claiming that my use of language is
perfect--it took some growing up and personal realizations on my part
to come to the understanding of language usage that I have now. I
used to scoff at the idea of "political correctness" like
many other privileged, irreverant people who mean no harm but can't
get past their own privilege and see how their use of language can
impact people. I'm still working to improve my own language usage,
and I know that relentlessly policing the language of others is
irritating and potentially counterproductive. But when I stop and
think about it, it still saddens me to see the notion of using
respectful language carrying the stigma that it does.
I agree. When I worked for Arc a big thing was when people would say "retarded" to mean stupid (given the history of the organization and what it does, it's an important distinction to them).
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